5 pillars of Strength for a Successful Long term Relationship

My  blog is more about human psychology and emotions which i write, majorly because i feel the issues in life is due to our emotions, few of us have a good control on them and leads to peace of mind and few of us are emotionally so down that we end up asking for support from people in terms of rebounds, flings, casual dating, friends with benefits kind things.

Love is very powerful word as well as an emotion as mentioned in my previously published articles. In life be like a drug so people try to get you then being  a cigarette where they just use you.Love can make us climb Mt Everest and it also can make us fall down the cliff.

For me love is empowerment, its that emotion where you go the extra mile to see a smile on that individuals face and when you low this is one energy booster for you to encourage you enough that you are charged up for life.

For few love is a game, for me its a feeling that you just feel with someone, its magical, you would have probably never felt it that way ever with anyone. there is huge difference  between being in love or just be in love with the feeling of being loved. often we get confused with infatuation and  initial attraction.

We dnt realize the intensity of this emotion until we loose someone or start missing. Love is when you nourish for someone growth its not possessing somebody. if you trying to possess someone just because you need them as you feel u cnt live without them then its again not love its obsession.

I have seen people using the three magical words ” I Love You”  or ” love you too” without much into consideration and just for sake of it. its sad for me both these words has a very deep meaning not just me i am sure for majority of girls to be specific, well i am not a feminist but just that its basis my own observation as guys often say this very soon when they see someone beautiful or something they just dnt know the use of this word.

If a girl say this words to you trust me she has thought infinity times then probably said it, this was not out of attraction or a fling. Because as per our society its always the guy who takes a lead be asking a girl out or initiating conversations. But time has changed now girls also take things forward specially when they serious about someone. This definitely doesn’t make them desperate or something please dont judge. Because today is the generation where girls are also earning and in better state of power and respect same as for guys.It really need lot of guts for a girl to say this words as well as express them as they are always considered to be submissive. So never play or take things lightly specially when a girl says this if you unsure about your own feelings never in joking way also say love you too or say in any indirect form. well for you its usual may be you had always been in flings and have broken people heart and moved on but for a girl its not as girls are deep in terms of these emotions not all but majority and when you break it they wont complain but they know whats going inside them.

So the core 5 pillars  fr any relationship to sustain or important are as follows. these are my own views people can differ.

  1. Respect: This is the key point when you cnt respect each other as individuals then  you cnt  love  and care then, because this is core from where the rest of emotions develop.
  2. Loyalty: This is a core element and trust me the hardest to expect from people of our generation. loyalty is not just when you having a good time with each other you are loyal even when you are low and drunk it matters. You cnt come up with an excuse you were drunk and wasn’t sure of what went wrong and go to someone else. you have problem you not getting something it can be emotional as well as physical needs from your partner grow up and be vocal about it to your partner and make them understand rather then cheating on them.
  3. Understanding: Understanding again plays an important role. each individual is different in the way they look out for things in life basis there own upbringings or experiences in life.when you understand what your partners needs and wants and what they look for say  personal space or they prefer watching a movie and stay at home  then going for shopping be considerate. When you low and all you need is a hug or a call from your partner the person also need to understand this then ignoring the need of the other.In beginning people showcase a lot of it but eventually we ignore thats when things go wrong.it can increase and become deep when you have a very frank open conversation which has loads of humors and straight to the point talk,. you disliked  something about your partner be blunt you are hurt let them know.
  4. Love & Trust : Well needless to say its  a core element and it comes as default in the whole package :P.loyalty again is directly proportional to trust, we should have enough trust on ourselves and on our partner that any third party cnt influence us. when you give trust you expect trust back and same need to be. if you with someone who  cnt trust and doubts you well its  a red flag  as this will lead to insecurity, jealously and possessiveness. healthy possessiveness is fine it shows your partner care and love but excessive is toxic and leads you to interfere in there personal space and cause fights.
  5. Compromise: yet again a strong thing, we need to adjust as time and again required, we grow up on each day we cnt expect to be commander always and command we need to compromise when required. we should apologize when required. just to see the other person happy dont over do but when required to make things work we should.

If your these 5 basic elements are strong then trust me the sustainability  of the bond is really long. modern day most of the relationship are short lived because of the lack of these pointers from one partner and often social media also to be blamed for quite an extend when each partner stalk others etc its bad and being clingy is again a red flag area. keep yourself calm when you trust yourself and your partner then those insecurities takes a back seat.

So, all the best  for your search for someone who is just made for you and who would love you the way you are because each of us are great souls .

Lyrics from one of my favorite song .

Kehte Hain Khuda Ne Iss Jahan Mein Sabhi Ke Liye
Kisi Na Kisi Ko Hai Banaya Har Kisi Ke Liye
Tera Milna Hai Uss Rab Ka Ishaara Maanu
Mujhko Banaya Tere Jaise Hi Kisi Ke Liye
Kehte Hain Khuda Ne Iss Jahan Mein Sabhi Ke Liye
Kisi Na Kisi Ko Hai Banaya Har Kisi Ke Liye
Tera Milna Hai Uss Rab Ka Ishaara Maanu
Mujhko Banaya Tere Jaise Hi Kisi Ke Liye
Kuch Toh Hai Tujhse Raabta
Kuch Toh Hai Tujhse Raabta

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